Elder Care: What We Learned From Living With An Aging Parent

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She gets so angry at me and my dad that she will not eat. Now the dr has ordered that we take her to emergency and they will admit her to the psych ward to be medically stabilized. This frightens me. She screams at the tv like these people are in the house.


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My fear also is that my mom is Japanese and if she is hospitalized who will understand her? Please help me I love my mom so much and I know she must be scared. I fear her going in hospital that she may never come out. I can see why you are so worried, and of course this must be difficult for her as well. If she is really out of control and is endangering herself or others around her, then sometimes it is indeed necessary to hospitalize the person to stabilize them with medication.

The hospital may be able to provide an interpreter but also if they will allow family to be present, it will help her to have someone familiar who speaks her language. What is most important is that you are concerned for her, and if you can show up as much as possible to express that concern and care for her, that can really help. She sounds unwell, hopefully she will get treatment and be better soon.

This is not easy, so find a caregiver support group if you can. If she is older and there is a possibility of dementia or another form of cognitive impairment, I have an article on medications often used here: 5 Types of Medication Used to Treat Difficult Dementia Behaviors. Good stuff and no one telks oatients or their families. Really, Ambien for a n 87 yr old parent for theclast 25 years? The careless way we treat our elderly.

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Our cavalier attitude in this country, that everything can be fixed eith the right pill. Rudeness should not be tolerated from anyone. Not to say you yell at them but if they are being rude, tell them they are being rude and if they are doing something that can cause them harm or to fall, you have to be stern and stop them from continuing that behavior.

I have to respectfully disagree here. What is more constructive is to try to create a positive and supportive emotional connection, and then work on a redirection of the behavior.

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Looking for underlying triggers is also important. Places a fairly substantial burden on the adult offspring. I completely agree that this is a substantial burden to place on adult children, and agree that more societal resources should be devoted to helping families with these situations. People are oblivious to the issue until it hits them, then swamped dealing with the challenges, and then afterwards most have no interest in advocating for other family caregivers. I imagine they are exhausted and sick of thinking about these things, which is understandable.

And then…advocate if you can! I applaud you for being proactive! I am a 49 yr old female caring for her 76 yr old father. It was I who turned to the web, desperate for a solution to his daily screaming fits. God Bless You. Fantastic response by Dr. K to an important, well-written letter that had me laughing and in tears both! Such a common experience for many families going through this journey…good luck to all and get that dementia assessment!

Linda Meneken PT. Thank you! Agree that the letter does a wonderful job at capturing the struggle and frustration that so many people experience. As a caregiver for my year old mother until her death, now a support group facilitator, dementia and caregiver educator and doing non-pharmacological and environmental home assessments, I agree with Dr. It is sometimes hard for us as children to step in and override decisions of our parents, even though we know that it would be best for all involved.

Your points are well taken with me, Robert Keene. Dad is has been widowed about 1 yr, 8 months. He is now He was paranoid and now he has added delusional to it per my description to the psych I see. He is very verbally abusive to me.

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He has called the police three times to file charges. I have a brother who lives near but there is no communication with him. This is only a part of the story. He needs to be in assisted living at the least. I checked out some stuff, but decided that… he wants to die in that house, so be it. I was their caregiver, spokesman, billing clerk, chauffeur, etc. Yes, it certainly is sad and heartbreaking when older adults become very paranoid and refuse the help they need. I have two aging parents, one with dementia, one without. However my not-demented parent is very stressed and overwhelmed with the responsibilities of the current situation, so between the two of them, my hands are really full these days.

I keep a watchful eye on my alcohol intake. I lean heavily on my loving and supportive husband, siblings and friends. Every day is a new challenge and an opportunity to develop grace.

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Your comment also brings up something very important, which is that many family caregivers are older adults caring for spouses. Studies have found these are the caregivers who tend to do the most weekly work. I am glad to know you making an effort to take care of yourself, and hope your non-demented parent is able to squeeze in some self-care as well. Gina your life could be mine at this moment. I need to start exercising to help control the frustration. It overwhelms me. They run a series of classes which are offered at no cost which helps you to care for your loved one.

Their website is also very helpful. Most caregiving resources are helpful for all kinds of dementia, and so I often tell families to still try Alz. All of these articles are extremely helpful. I hope they are reading them and following this most important advice.

My mom has turned into a screaming mean person. Her episodes are more frequent and meaner. She threatens to call the police on us! My poor husband!

xn--90aeccc3bhhfl0anb8f.xn--p1ai/includes He has been so good to her but she aims for the Achilles. You are definitely not alone. If the situation is very difficult and stressful — which it sounds like — I would recommend you reach to local resources for more advice and support.


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Your local Area Agency on Aging can help you identify these. You need to make sure you take care of yourself and your marriage, and contacting others can help you identify ways to meet your own needs while providing your mother with reasonable assistance. Thank you so much for an insightful and information packed response! I have recently become caregiver for my 51 year old brother who we believe has dementia.